What I want from life

Focusing on what really matters

Last updated: 9th January 2023

6 min read

What success looks like will be different for each person. What someone wants out of life will depend on what they have now, how they grew up, and what stage of life they are at.

In this article I'll share what I want from life. By sharing these details, I hope I'm more likely to achieve the things I want and that I'm more likely to be held accountable for my goals.

I've spent a lot of time thinking about what makes me happy but I don't think I've ever really been able to put my finger on it. Like most people, the things I want have changed throughout my life. It wasn't until recently I decided that happiness shouldn't be my goal. Happiness comes and goes. That's a normal part of being human. If I set my sights on permanent happiness I'd be setting myself up to fail.

For me, finding purpose is more important.

As Steve Jobs famously said:

If you love what you do, you'll never work a day in your life

Steve was wrong. If you find a job you love, you'll work a hell of a lot, but you'll enjoy it. That's kind of where I'm at right now. I love writing code and more importantly I love solving problems. Before I was getting paid to build things on the web, I was doing it for fun.

I want the freedom to decide what I work on and when I work

Essentially, I want to be able to decide how I spend my time. I want to be able to take downtime when I need it and get stuck into the work I enjoy when I'm feeling motivated. I genuinely love the work I do and I want to make sure it stays that way. My wife Ellie and I are working hard towards this goal. Basically, we need to save a lot of money and we need to build up some level of passive income. That way, a full time job is not a requirement. That's not to say I won't have a full time job when we reach that point, it just means it'll be on my terms.

We still have some way to go before this becomes a reality but we're on track. We're currently saving to move to the US in early 2024 all being well.

The next goal of mine isn't related to money or work.

I want to build a life long habit of daily exercise

This is just as important as financial freedom. What would be the point of having all the money and time in the world if you didn't have the health to enjoy it. Throughout my life I've cycled through phases of training a lot, to months where the only exercise I would do is walking to and from the office. Recently that has been changing though. I've become more consistent by following the “two day rule”. Basically, I plan to work out everyday. I can skip a day whenever I like, but I can never miss two workouts in a row. My current work out plan is 30 mins of kettlebell training, 4 times a week. On days when I'm not doing kettlebells, I'll do a minimum of a 30 min walk.

When you want to make something a core part of your life, you need to do it everyday. At least at the start. When you do something every day, it becomes part of your routine. It's not the exception or something that gets in the way, it's just part of your day, everyday. To make sure I would stick with this plan, I decided on a workout that would take less than 30 minutes and could be done at home. That way I could never make the excuse that the weather was bad or I didn't have time. For me, the workout that fits my life best is kettlebell training.

I want to live in a way that is sustainable and positive for the planet

It is the responsibility of every person alive to leave the planet in a better state than it was when they arrived. I whole heartedly believe this. In practice this means I rarely eat meat at home, I avoid air travel when I can, and vote for political parties that support green initiatives. I also rarely buy new clothes. A lot of my clothes are years old and have been repaired several time. In a few years, when we move to Oregon (where my wife is from), we plan on building or buying a small house and growing as much of our own food as we can.

Some people might look at my lifestyle choices and see them as sacrifices, but I don't think of it like that. I like the slower pace of life that living like this encourages.

I want to do work that matters

This is a tricky one. What is work that matters? I think it is work that has a positive impact on the lives of other people. I'm not pretending I'm going to change the world, I just want to do work that moves the needle in the right direction. What I think this will mean for me is teaching.

I've been able to build a pretty comfortable life for myself through writing code. I want to help other people enjoy the same opportunities that I have. I'm already an egghead instructor so I'm heading in the right direction. That said, it has been a few years since I've published a course. I'm hoping to change that soon.

I want to enjoy the journey

When setting goals around what you want out of life I think it is easy to get tunnel vision. You can get so focused on the end goal that you forget to enjoy the journey. I've been guilty of this in the past. I've been so focused on the end goal that I've missed out on the fun of the journey. I'm trying to be more mindful of this now. I'm trying to enjoy the process of getting to where I want to be. There is more to life than work. Over the past few years I've been learning to fly (I know, that contradicts my previous point about trying to fly less.). I want to spend more of my time doing things like that.

Whats next?

Things are on track for me right now. I need to keep reminding myself to enjoy the journey. I have a bunch of goals I'm working on, but when I get there, I'll probably have new ones. Enjoying the day to day is what makes for a good life.

I know this post isn't at all tech related, but hopefully you found it interesting anyway. What about you? What do you want from life?

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